So I woke up to this yesterday on Valentine’s Day, and it brightened my entire day. I waited to post this, because I wanted to make it special, and really properly thank you guys. Specifically Tumblr, because you guys are a BIG part of the support for this song, and your support specifically has blown me away.
Boys/Girls just passed 100,000 streams on Spotify, making it my first song to do so and I am emotional. The journey that I have been on since releasing this song. The number of amazing people I have gotten to meet because of it!!! You guys have never stopped supporting me, and this song and it really means the world to me. I don’t even have words. Seeing how the community has welcomed this song into their lives…receiving messages that some of you came out with this song to friends and family, and that making me cry. I am an unsigned, independent artist who has been so fortunate to have consistent streams on my Spotify because of you guys taking your support of this song and running with it. Seriously, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
On a personal note, I may not identify as bisexual anymore, but this song was always meant as a love letter to the bi community. I will always be grateful for the support the bi community has given me, and will always sing this song, and represent it proudly for all of you. The bi community deserves love and validation. I hope this song can continue to help you all if you are ever feeling alone, or invalidated. If it wasn’t for you guys, I wouldn’t be where I am today on my own journey, and I will never take that lightly.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I can’t wait for what’s to come. More LGBTQ bops where this came from!!!
Honestly it’s really fucking scary how quickly people, ESPECIALLY leftists, start supporting loss of human rights when it’s aimed at someone they don’t like, how quickly leftists specifically start supporting things like state violence when it’s convenient for them.
Police brutality is unacceptable… unless it’s against a mass shooter. Life sentences are inhumane… unless they’re given to abusers. Death sentences shouldn’t be an option at all… unless the person on trial is a rapist.
Solitary confinement, abuse from authority figures, denial of legal representation, rushed trials, etc all become totally fine the moment they’re aimed at someone we’ve decided is an acceptable victim, someone deserving of losing their basic human rights.
When you bring into question whether a person deserves basic human rights, no matter how terrible that person is, that is the moment you’ve declared that everyone’s basic rights are conditional.
And believe me, you might think you’re “justified” in declaring that x group should be suffering, but so everyone else is telling themselves the exact same thing when they take rights away from people of color and trans people and everyone that’s slightly inconvenient to the status quo.
i saw a post recently that made the argument that the question is less whether a person deserves to die, and more whether the government deserves the right to execute them, and i think that logic really applies here
regardless of whether a person deserves brutality, or a life sentence, or death, someone must be given the right to administer that punishment
and nobody should ever be given that kind of dominion over another person, ever. nobody deserves it, and nobody can be trusted with it
not to be a person of color on main but once again everybody who is white needs to consistently and continuously be conscious of how you treat and interact with other people of color. are you holding creators of color to higher standards than white creators? do you find yourself making excuses for your white friends when they’re being told an action they did had made a person of color uncomfortable? do you find your friends of color less approachable and more aggressive than your white friends? do you find yourself only listening to the opinions of people of color who are like you in other ways (trans, gay, ND, etc) or who validate your opinions on media, the most egregious being “my friend of color says it’s okay to like this”. It isn’t enough to try and default it to treating them just like they’re white, because there is a notable difference in said treatment and you are unable to recognize it if you do not check yourself on it without constantly being told.
ok and encouraged to reblog but if you’re white I want to your silence, including in the tags.
So…hi. I have done some thinking on this, and I think I want to tell you guys something I haven’t put publicly online yet. but, I am realizing Tumblr is a safe environment and I feel ready to tell you guys, so I am going to say it here. I alluded to it a little bit ago, and I was going to wait, but I realized I want to tell you guys this first. And plan to expand on it in my music to everyone else in my life in a stand alone single I hope to release in 2021.
2020 has been a lot of things for all of us….but one thing I have come to terms with and realized in 2020 is that…..well, I am a lesbian.
This is very real and has taken me years to come to terms with. I was dealing with some pretty intense comphet from a religious upbringing and s*xual a*s**lt trauma. I have been questioning this for a few years now, but it really came into question within this last year as I have begun to see a trauma therapist, and think about if I could actually see myself ending up with a man. And, realizing that in the present moment, the answer is no. Going over the “am I a lesbian” doc many times and realizing I meet most of the criteria. Realizing I have had sex with cishet men for years as a form of s*lf h*rm.
Realizing I was holding onto the bi label for everyone else, and not for myself. And to honor my past relationships. Becoming aware of how heavy that label felt over time. I have done a lot of work with the bi community, and have chosen to be really public about that. I wrote a whole song for the bi community that has a lot of streams, that you guys have supported so much. I felt guilty for even feeling this shift in myself, like people would feel betrayed if I told anyone how I really felt, or think I did all the work with Boys/Girls and the bi community for clout or attention, when identifying as bi was very real to me for several years. I see it as a full and real identity that I identified with for a few years, that just doesn’t feel genuine now. It wasn’t a phase. Bisexuality never is, even if your identity changes later.
I will still advocate for the bi community. I will still perform Boys/Girls live for the bi community post COVID and am grateful for all they have done for me. I will release a new song as I said above when I am ready to address this with everyone in my life, including the music industry, and have a plan for this. But I am not out as a lesbian yet anywhere else online or publicly, and I intend to keep it that way for a little bit, so this feels like its mine. But I want to come out somewhere safe. Tumblr feels like that place…for now.
I made the mistake the first time I came out of doing it quickly for the sake of others, not myself, and the whole time I felt dirty about it. This time…coming out is for me. I choose to put this here, because I have always felt close with Tumblr and people here in sharing my music and personal stuff. And when I feel ready…everyone else will find out.
So yeah…after many years of fear and denial. I am a lesbian. I don’t want to date men. It’s felt so good to admit this to myself, and allow myself to really live it. I don’t know what the future will look like…I am attracted to non binary/gnc people as well, and idk who my partner will be. But yeah. This is me. And I wanted you guys to be the first online to find out.
